s02e08 - Thrive by Arianna Huffington - More Zs at night, straight As in life

August 19, 2017

Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss another self-help book. This time it's Thrive, by Arianna Huffington. They also discuss their 30-day challenges, pop culture pleasures and obsessions.


ANDREW: Noticed there are certain ones that keep popping up as 30-day challenges. Next challenge? Tracking his morning, as he wants to get up a little earlier and write more. By consciously experiencing your mornings you’re more likely to be able to do both!

LIANNE: Did self-help exercises aplenty during the summer! Gratitude lists never fail, but also investigated limiting beliefs and self-destructive tendencies. It was very interesting and I will keep going down that road. Andrew and I are gonna make a little book with some favorite small self-help exercises, probably.


Thrive by Arianne Huffington!

You can get it for 7$ on Amazon* (the Kindle version is 10$) and Bol.com carries it for 11.99!

Ariane Huffington is a Greek-American author of multiple books, engaged in politics as well as business, and she is one of the most influential women in media. She is co-founder and editor in-chief of the Huffington Post and is very well known as the advocate of sleep, as in this Ted-talk.

Thrive is her book in which she wants you to learn how to thrive, not by working harder, longer, more efficiently, but by actively pursuing relaxation and self-care.

In ‘Thrive’ Arianne explains in a very matter-of-factly way in what ways you can improve your well-being, backed up by science and research at every turn. From meditation to putting away your phone and yoga, but also through giving and service.

This book is very suitable for anyone who isn’t into the more American gospel-type “YOU CAN DO IT” books, or who breaks out in hives as soon as someone talks about the Universe and energy.

Some of Andrew and Lianne’s favorite quotes:

· “We may not be able to witness our own eulogy, but we’re actually writing it all the time, everyday. The question is how much we’re giving the eulogizer to work with. (…) The good news is that each and everyone of us still has the time to live up to the best version of our eulogy.”

· “Eulogies aren’t resumes.”

· “It’s really not so much habit breaking as habit unmaking.”

· “If you want to catch little fish, you can stay in the shallow water. But if you want to catch the big fish, you’ve got to go deeper. Down deep, the fish are more powerful and purer. They’re huge and abstract. And they’re very beautiful.”

· “Knock on your inner door. No other.”

· Giving up drugs is easy compared to dealing with the emotions drugs protected you from.”


LIANNE: My Dad Wrote A Porno.

Oh. My. God.

This podcast can cure your acne, water your crops and have you laugh wherever you go. Listen to it via iTunes, aCast and follow MDWAP on Instagram.

(After I talked about it in the podcast, Andrew started listening to it in the car on his way back from my place and he is now JUST AS OBSESSED.)

ANDREW: Lana Del Rey’s latest Album ‘Lust for Life’

This new album is incredible. So beautiful. I like it just as much as I did Born To Die. Amazing.

LIANNE: American Gods.

Television series based on Neil Gaiman’s novel ‘American Gods’. I am four episodes in and it’s bloody amazing. The intro is just as good as the Game of Thrones intro (yes I said it fight me) and I LOVE the amazing story arc.


LIANNE: Tony’s Chocolonely’s Milk & Coffee Crunch. Because Tony’s Chocolonely forever.

ANDREW: The movie Baby Driver. You can find the MovieBitches review I refer to here.

For those interested, here are Into the Blood & I'm On Fire by John Mayer we briefly discuss!




The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson!

You can get it here for 13 euros (with free shipping) and for 14.99$ here (Kindle version is 12$)!

See you in September!

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s02e07 - You Are a Badass at Making Money - Jen Sincero does it again!

June 25, 2017


Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss You Are A Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero.


Pop culture pleasure


Youtube show: Good mythical morning

Will it Taco?




Dutch rap songs Andrew and Lianne like:

Lil’ Kleine  Alleen album

Dopeboy Blijf rustig

4x duurder


Leave a comment if you also like dutch rap music


Lianne's obsession:

The Youtube videos of Susannah Herman where Lianne is featured in



Andrew's obsession:

Wonder Woman the movie

Gal Gadot gif looking at chris pine - gif


The next book: Thrive by Ariana Huffington


s02e06 - Radical Candor - Honesty is no longer such a lonely word

June 5, 2017

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss Radical Candor by Kim Scott.


s02e05 - Reinvent yourself by life scientist James Altucher

April 22, 2017

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss Reinvent yourself by the legend James Altucher.



A previous question we got was “what are the best/worst self-help books we ever read?”

TLDL (too long didn’t listen); Our favorites are (and will forever be) Self Development For Smart People by Steve Pavlina and Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy.

One of the worst books is probably the Secret, although a) at one point in my life I did love it and b) marketing-wise that one was nuclear.

Another point we make is that sometimes it’s not the book, it’s you. I have picked up books and threw them in a corner after a few chapters, while if I come back to it a couple of months later I actually really like it.


Reinvent Yourself by James Altucher. BUY IT, THE KINDLE VERSION IS LITERALLY 2.20$ ON AMAZON.

James Altucher also has a podcast (Andrew considers it the Podcast of all podcasts!) and I love his writing style.


I refer to this quote in the chapter on Scheduling Inspiration of ‘How to be a Bawse’ and relentlessly doing, reading, watching and browsing what gives you joy.
Hot New Pop Tracks is Andrew & I’s favorite playlist at the moment.

Andrew’s: In the previous episode he talked about his obsession with Urban Van Dwelling, and now he bought a van! It’s gonna be the WorkLifeStudio Van and he’s gonna tour with it!
Mine: A weird phenomenon called “WHERE IS THE FUCKING AIRPORT” on MapCrunch. Tumblr post here. I’ve tried playing it and it’s absolutely impossible.

Radical Candor by Kim Scott. I had just received the press release for the Dutch version and Drew and I will read the original version. The Dutch version is coming, but the English one is available as an ebook for 16.00* on Bol.com but yay Amazon, yay Kindle, I got it here* for 13.79$.
*Affiliate links, meaning we get 1-3% when you buy something!


s02e04 - Playing Big, for girls who want to play ball in the big league

March 21, 2017


Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss Playing Big by Tara Mohr.


Vanessa asked us the question: How can I learn to speak up without being worried I hurt people's feelings OR they think I'm stupid?

Short summary of our answers:

You are not serving anyone by keeping your ideas and thoughts to yourself. You have an opinion or perspective based on your observations and arguments, you can argue your point and you should.
Even though feelings are irrelevant in case of constructive criticism and feedback, I know it doesn't seem that way. But you know what? Tough. You have an opinion/something to say, and you should say it. Sometimes people's feelings need to be hurt.
Read Playing Big, and focus on the chapter of Unhooking from Praise & Criticism. It doesn't matter all that much what your coworkers think of you. Do your best work, receive feedback but don't be dependent on praise or criticism.
The fear of being stupid is holding you back, the way it often holds me and many other people back. You're not stupid (and it doesn't matter all that much if people think you are.)
Josianne asked: What is your biggest life lesson or mottos?

Lianne: I don't really have one particular one, I work more in themes. Mine change depending on what period of my life I am, what I am working on, what I am devoting my energy on at that time. Right now, it's that I need to surrender to what is happening in my life, trust the pace instead of trying to race ahead.
Andrew: Dance through life is a recurring one. Whenever something is scary or slippery or I am going through something, I remind myself I just need to dance through it. That way I am most myself and find my way.
Do you have a question for us?

Email us at info@theselfhelphipster.com
Tweet at us with the #selfhelphipsterpodcast hashtag (mine and Andrew's)
Comment on our Instagrams (mine and Andrew's)
Please God don't let us just yell into the void. Interact with us.


Playing Big by Tara Mohr. You can buy the Bol.com ebook for 9.49 here*, the English paperback for 9.99* and the Kindle version here for 7.49*.

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Lianne: Laadscherm! A new gaming website that I am so stoked about is coming. It seems like it's going to be a super cool in-depth online platform for stories on gaming. Lord knows I am only capable of point-and-click adventures and some bouts of Sims 4 obsession, but I am interested in game culture, hacker culture and other people's experiences gaming. I follow Laadscherm one of the creators and one of the writers on Twitter.
Andrew: Ed Sheeran's new album, Divide! Ed Sheeran is a BOSS. I love reading up on artists that I love and you can read on his Wikipedia about how he crashed on Jamie Foxx's couch while in the US, performing.
Lianne: LOOK AT HUH. The Hey Queen aftershow where drag queens have to look at pictures of fellow drag queens and comment. Pretty much all my favourite drag queens have been on. I LIVE.

Andrew: Flying, because Andrew is a HUGE pilot-o-phile!
Andrew: Stealth urban van camping/van dwelling.

Reinvent yourself by James Altucher, who also has an amazing podcast!

It's LITERALLY 2$ on Amazon right now, GO BUY IT.


s02e03 - Money: A Love Story #StillABetterLoveStoryThanTwighlight

February 26, 2017



Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book.

This time it's:

Money: A Love Story by Kate Northrup


Other notes that we discussed:

Money books Andrew has read and can recommend:

I will teach you to be rich -  Ramit Sethi

Money Master the Game - Tony Robbins

The 9 steps to financial Freedom - Suze Orman

Rich Dad, Poor Dad - Robert Kiyosaki


Dutch option for individual retirement fund: Brand New Day www.brandnewday.nl



Andrew's pop culture pleasure 

Slide by Calvin Harris, Frans Ocean and Migos


Lianne's obsessions: 

The Cave adventure game (find it on steam)

The book by Tina Fey – Bossypants

The book by Amy Poehler – Yes Please

RuPaul’s drag race season 9 (dah)


The next book: Playing Big - Tara Mohr 


s02e02 - The Universe Has Your Back - Ride or Die with Gabrielle Bernstein

January 30, 2017
Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin review the book The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein. They also dive into some of their pop culture pleasures and current obsessions.
6Lack - Free 6Lack new album
The beautiful Passion Planner buy at www.passionplanner.com
The Next book: Money: A Love Story by Kate Northrup

s02e01 - Deep Work, because you can’t dive in a kiddie pool

November 13, 2016
Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss their 30-day challenges, review the book Deep Work by Cal Newport. They also dive into some of their pop culture pleasures and current obsessions.
The book of the month: Deep Work by Cal Newport - you can buy it here
Tove Lo - Ladywood (new album)
Ru Paul podcast
Watch Before the Flood by Leonardo Dicaprio for free on YouTube
Bonus:The Universe by Amy Shumer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6eqCaiwmr_M

s01e10 - Ego is the enemy - Ryan Holiday doesn’t believe in thinking you’re a hot bitch

September 25, 2016
Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss their 30-day challenges, review the book Ego is the enemy by Ryan Holiday. They also dive into some of their pop culture pleasures like Kylie Jenner Ramen and Ru Paul's Drag Race Allstars.



Kylie Jenner Ramen Buzzfeed video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW40wWgG87c
Order the book: Ego is the Enemy online
Ru Paul's drag race allstars: http://www.logotv.com/shows/rupauls-all-stars-drag-race
Dirty Thirty Movie: http://dirtythirtymovie.com

s01e09 Personal Development for Smart People - Hey, if the shoe fits

July 1, 2016
Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss their 30-day challenges, review the book Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina. They also dive into some of their pop culture pleasures and current obsessions like Reese's pyjamas and Escape to the Country.


Ballers the HBO show with The Rock - http://www.hbo.com/ballers
Escape to the country - All the episodes on youtube collection by http://escapetothecountry.info
Dirty Thirty Movie: http://dirtythirtymovie.com
Bo Burnham's generic country song- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTUP4ET2IE0