s02e10 - The life-changing magic of getting your shit together

November 1, 2017

SHOWNOTES

30 DAY CHALLENGE

LIANNE: I have been doing reiki before going to bed, which is somewhere in between an "energy healing" and a very relaxing meditation (I'm still on the fence what it actually is, I just enjoy the moment to chill and connect with myself). It's been nice. BUT. New challenge is me editing the chapters of my book, to hand in a manuscript. Exciting times.

ANDREW: Too busy, but the tracking mornings is up for the next episode. There is a fresh unboxed 5-minute journal ready to be used.

BOOK OF THE MONTH

We read TWO books! We read The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving A Fuck and Get Your Shit Together by Sarah Knight.

The ebook for Life Changing Magic of Not Giving A Fuck is only 5 euros here!* And Get Your Shit Together is also just 5 euros here!* BUY THEM. Best 10 euros you'll spend this year, because in my humble opinion these are the best self help books of 2017.

Andrew (more of less) agrees, except he got more out of the previous book (the Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson) because he already applied a lot of the stuff from Sarah's first book about not giving a fuck to his life. Get Your Shit Together however? Made him realise he wants to get more of his shit together.

Our favourite aspects of The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving A Fuck is how Sarah explains you have a "Fuck Budget" and there is only so much fucks you can give about certain things. And it is okay to not give a fuck about things like meetings (Andrew) or birthday parties where you don't know anybody (Lianne).

Our favourite quotes from Get Your Shit Together:

"Just because you are doing a ton of shit all day, every day, does NOT mean you have your shit together. It means you are a high functioning human to-do list potentially on the verge of total mental and physical collapse."
"I know so many people who complain about there finances. Who lament not being able to pay for or save for thes or that. They think of money as a lion that can't be tamed. Or worse, as a cute, fuzzy little Norway in the streets and a gremlin in the sheets. In reality, money is just a piece of paper and you are a real live human being with free will and probably two pairs of sneakers. If you're someone who says "I can't make it to payday without dipping into my savings" or "I'm always spending a little more than I should" then you're allowing money to build a prison around you and make you its bitch. What I'm saying is, don't be money's bitch."
As mentioned before, buy the set.

OBSESSIONS

ANDREW: His van, obviously, and the idea of living in a TinyHouse on an acre of land in Sicily. I plan to visit and eat pasta.

LIANNE: DIWMOTZ. The website, the book (buy it because it's cute, cheap and perfect to put in the bathroom so that when you hear people laughing, you know that they're pooping on your toilet), the people I met at the book launch. Deal with it.

POP CULTURE PLEASURES

LIANNE: Stranger Things S2 is AMAZING. (I spent quite a bit of the podcast explaining the concept of Stranger Things to Andrew because he's never seen any of it.) I am also really into 80's music at the moment.

ANDREW: Bladerunner! Both the old and the new version. Apparently it's a go-see, because it's beautiful cinematography AND a great film.

ALL TIME FAVORITE POP CULTURE PLEASURES

Because it was the season finale we also talked about our ALL TIME FAVORITE honourable mentions.

Bojack Horseman. A show that takes some getting used to but is so funny and smart and deep you are hooked for life.
Rick.& Morty, because of this clip.
Reese's Pieces, because at one point I talked about it so much.
And my Dad Wrote A Porno because it hit us hard and fast at the end of the series.

Other random stuff we said we would link below:

Favourite twitter hashtags reedit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaWXgCsrS4Y&t=256s
The Alvin and the Chipmunks movie classic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aD-RVDeeudE
Susannah Herman's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCM8gl2ZCxrgMPIsuNBOVHfQ
McDonalds Mulan Szechuan Sauce: https://www.buzzfeed.com/andyneuenschwander/we-tried-mcdonalds-1998-mulan-szechuan-sauce-and?utm_term=.pyQVDQ91p#.gdrX1oG3w
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s02e09 - The subtle art of not giving a fuck. It’s real fucking subtle!

November 1, 2017

Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss another self-help book. This time it's The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson. They also discuss their 30-day challenges, pop culture pleasures and obsessions.

Shownotes

 
30-day challenge Lianne: Reiki and continuing to do that
30-day challenge Andrew: Sleep Meditations and tracking mornings
The book: Mark Manson's The subtle art of not giving a fuck
 
Obsessions Lianne:
Pink waterkettle
One fit membership
Obsessions Andrew:
Harewood bakery donuts
 
Pop culture pleasure:
6LACK
Documentary of Lady Gaga
 
PCP Andrew:
My dad wrote a porno
 
The next books:
The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck by Sarah Knight
Get your shit together by Sarah Knight 
 
 
 
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s02e08 - Thrive by Arianna Huffington - More Zs at night, straight As in life

August 19, 2017

Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss another self-help book. This time it's Thrive, by Arianna Huffington. They also discuss their 30-day challenges, pop culture pleasures and obsessions.

30 DAY CHALLENGES

ANDREW: Noticed there are certain ones that keep popping up as 30-day challenges. Next challenge? Tracking his morning, as he wants to get up a little earlier and write more. By consciously experiencing your mornings you’re more likely to be able to do both!

LIANNE: Did self-help exercises aplenty during the summer! Gratitude lists never fail, but also investigated limiting beliefs and self-destructive tendencies. It was very interesting and I will keep going down that road. Andrew and I are gonna make a little book with some favorite small self-help exercises, probably.

BOOK OF THE MONTH

Thrive by Arianne Huffington!

You can get it for 7$ on Amazon* (the Kindle version is 10$) and Bol.com carries it for 11.99!

Ariane Huffington is a Greek-American author of multiple books, engaged in politics as well as business, and she is one of the most influential women in media. She is co-founder and editor in-chief of the Huffington Post and is very well known as the advocate of sleep, as in this Ted-talk.

Thrive is her book in which she wants you to learn how to thrive, not by working harder, longer, more efficiently, but by actively pursuing relaxation and self-care.

In ‘Thrive’ Arianne explains in a very matter-of-factly way in what ways you can improve your well-being, backed up by science and research at every turn. From meditation to putting away your phone and yoga, but also through giving and service.

This book is very suitable for anyone who isn’t into the more American gospel-type “YOU CAN DO IT” books, or who breaks out in hives as soon as someone talks about the Universe and energy.

Some of Andrew and Lianne’s favorite quotes:

· “We may not be able to witness our own eulogy, but we’re actually writing it all the time, everyday. The question is how much we’re giving the eulogizer to work with. (…) The good news is that each and everyone of us still has the time to live up to the best version of our eulogy.”

· “Eulogies aren’t resumes.”

· “It’s really not so much habit breaking as habit unmaking.”

· “If you want to catch little fish, you can stay in the shallow water. But if you want to catch the big fish, you’ve got to go deeper. Down deep, the fish are more powerful and purer. They’re huge and abstract. And they’re very beautiful.”

· “Knock on your inner door. No other.”

· Giving up drugs is easy compared to dealing with the emotions drugs protected you from.”

POP CULTURE PLEASURES

LIANNE: My Dad Wrote A Porno.

Oh. My. God.

This podcast can cure your acne, water your crops and have you laugh wherever you go. Listen to it via iTunes, aCast and follow MDWAP on Instagram.

(After I talked about it in the podcast, Andrew started listening to it in the car on his way back from my place and he is now JUST AS OBSESSED.)

ANDREW: Lana Del Rey’s latest Album ‘Lust for Life’

This new album is incredible. So beautiful. I like it just as much as I did Born To Die. Amazing.

LIANNE: American Gods.

Television series based on Neil Gaiman’s novel ‘American Gods’. I am four episodes in and it’s bloody amazing. The intro is just as good as the Game of Thrones intro (yes I said it fight me) and I LOVE the amazing story arc.

OBSESSIONS

LIANNE: Tony’s Chocolonely’s Milk & Coffee Crunch. Because Tony’s Chocolonely forever.

ANDREW: The movie Baby Driver. You can find the MovieBitches review I refer to here.

For those interested, here are Into the Blood & I'm On Fire by John Mayer we briefly discuss!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxq9PV9plck

https://open.spotify.com/track/77Y57qRJBvkGCUw9qs0qMg

NEXT BOOK

The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson!

You can get it here for 13 euros (with free shipping) and for 14.99$ here (Kindle version is 12$)!

See you in September!

*Amazon.com & Bol.com links are affiliate links. If you purchase books through that link, without it affecting what you pay, we get a small commission for referring you. Thank you!

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s02e07 - You Are a Badass at Making Money - Jen Sincero does it again!

June 25, 2017

Shownotes:

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss You Are A Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero.

 

Pop culture pleasure

Liann:Good

Youtube show: Good mythical morning

Will it Taco?

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WFp9D_Eue9M

 

Dutch rap songs Andrew and Lianne like:

Lil’ Kleine  Alleen album

Dopeboy Blijf rustig

4x duurder

 

Leave a comment if you also like dutch rap music

 

Lianne's obsession:

The Youtube videos of Susannah Herman where Lianne is featured in

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCM8gl2ZCxrgMPIsuNBOVHfQ/videos

 

Andrew's obsession:

Wonder Woman the movie

Gal Gadot gif looking at chris pine - gif

 

The next book: Thrive by Ariana Huffington

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s02e06 - Radical Candor - Honesty is no longer such a lonely word

June 5, 2017

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss Radical Candor by Kim Scott.

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s02e05 - Reinvent yourself by life scientist James Altucher

April 22, 2017

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss Reinvent yourself by the legend James Altucher.

SHOWNOTES

LISTENING IN:

A previous question we got was “what are the best/worst self-help books we ever read?”

TLDL (too long didn’t listen); Our favorites are (and will forever be) Self Development For Smart People by Steve Pavlina and Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy.

One of the worst books is probably the Secret, although a) at one point in my life I did love it and b) marketing-wise that one was nuclear.

Another point we make is that sometimes it’s not the book, it’s you. I have picked up books and threw them in a corner after a few chapters, while if I come back to it a couple of months later I actually really like it.

BOOK OF THE MONTH:

Reinvent Yourself by James Altucher. BUY IT, THE KINDLE VERSION IS LITERALLY 2.20$ ON AMAZON.

James Altucher also has a podcast (Andrew considers it the Podcast of all podcasts!) and I love his writing style.

POP CULTURE PLEASURES

I refer to this quote in the chapter on Scheduling Inspiration of ‘How to be a Bawse’ and relentlessly doing, reading, watching and browsing what gives you joy.
Hot New Pop Tracks is Andrew & I’s favorite playlist at the moment.
OBSESSIONS

Andrew’s: In the previous episode he talked about his obsession with Urban Van Dwelling, and now he bought a van! It’s gonna be the WorkLifeStudio Van and he’s gonna tour with it!
Mine: A weird phenomenon called “WHERE IS THE FUCKING AIRPORT” on MapCrunch. Tumblr post here. I’ve tried playing it and it’s absolutely impossible.
NEXT BOOK

Radical Candor by Kim Scott. I had just received the press release for the Dutch version and Drew and I will read the original version. The Dutch version is coming, but the English one is available as an ebook for 16.00* on Bol.com but yay Amazon, yay Kindle, I got it here* for 13.79$.
*Affiliate links, meaning we get 1-3% when you buy something!

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s02e04 - Playing Big, for girls who want to play ball in the big league

March 21, 2017

SHOWNOTES

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book. This time they discuss Playing Big by Tara Mohr.

LISTENER IN!

Vanessa asked us the question: How can I learn to speak up without being worried I hurt people's feelings OR they think I'm stupid?

Short summary of our answers:

You are not serving anyone by keeping your ideas and thoughts to yourself. You have an opinion or perspective based on your observations and arguments, you can argue your point and you should.
Even though feelings are irrelevant in case of constructive criticism and feedback, I know it doesn't seem that way. But you know what? Tough. You have an opinion/something to say, and you should say it. Sometimes people's feelings need to be hurt.
Read Playing Big, and focus on the chapter of Unhooking from Praise & Criticism. It doesn't matter all that much what your coworkers think of you. Do your best work, receive feedback but don't be dependent on praise or criticism.
The fear of being stupid is holding you back, the way it often holds me and many other people back. You're not stupid (and it doesn't matter all that much if people think you are.)
Josianne asked: What is your biggest life lesson or mottos?

Lianne: I don't really have one particular one, I work more in themes. Mine change depending on what period of my life I am, what I am working on, what I am devoting my energy on at that time. Right now, it's that I need to surrender to what is happening in my life, trust the pace instead of trying to race ahead.
Andrew: Dance through life is a recurring one. Whenever something is scary or slippery or I am going through something, I remind myself I just need to dance through it. That way I am most myself and find my way.
Do you have a question for us?

Email us at info@theselfhelphipster.com
Tweet at us with the #selfhelphipsterpodcast hashtag (mine and Andrew's)
Comment on our Instagrams (mine and Andrew's)
Please God don't let us just yell into the void. Interact with us.

BOOK OF THE MONTH

Playing Big by Tara Mohr. You can buy the Bol.com ebook for 9.49 here*, the English paperback for 9.99* and the Kindle version here for 7.49*.

*Affiliate links! Small percentages of commission when you buy via these links!

POP CULTURE PLEASURES

Lianne: Laadscherm! A new gaming website that I am so stoked about is coming. It seems like it's going to be a super cool in-depth online platform for stories on gaming. Lord knows I am only capable of point-and-click adventures and some bouts of Sims 4 obsession, but I am interested in game culture, hacker culture and other people's experiences gaming. I follow Laadscherm one of the creators and one of the writers on Twitter.
Andrew: Ed Sheeran's new album, Divide! Ed Sheeran is a BOSS. I love reading up on artists that I love and you can read on his Wikipedia about how he crashed on Jamie Foxx's couch while in the US, performing.
Lianne: LOOK AT HUH. The Hey Queen aftershow where drag queens have to look at pictures of fellow drag queens and comment. Pretty much all my favourite drag queens have been on. I LIVE.
OBSESSIONS

Andrew: Flying, because Andrew is a HUGE pilot-o-phile!
Andrew: Stealth urban van camping/van dwelling.
NEXT BOOK

Reinvent yourself by James Altucher, who also has an amazing podcast!

It's LITERALLY 2$ on Amazon right now, GO BUY IT.

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s02e03 - Money: A Love Story #StillABetterLoveStoryThanTwighlight

February 26, 2017

Shownotes

 

Lianne Kay from www.theselfhelphipster.com and Andrew Chin from www.andrewchin.co discuss another self-help book.

This time it's:

Money: A Love Story by Kate Northrup

 

Other notes that we discussed:

Money books Andrew has read and can recommend:

I will teach you to be rich -  Ramit Sethi

Money Master the Game - Tony Robbins

The 9 steps to financial Freedom - Suze Orman

Rich Dad, Poor Dad - Robert Kiyosaki

  

Dutch option for individual retirement fund: Brand New Day www.brandnewday.nl

 

 

Andrew's pop culture pleasure 

Slide by Calvin Harris, Frans Ocean and Migos

  

Lianne's obsessions: 

The Cave adventure game (find it on steam)

The book by Tina Fey – Bossypants

The book by Amy Poehler – Yes Please

RuPaul’s drag race season 9 (dah)

 

The next book: Playing Big - Tara Mohr 

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s02e02 - The Universe Has Your Back - Ride or Die with Gabrielle Bernstein

January 30, 2017
Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin review the book The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein. They also dive into some of their pop culture pleasures and current obsessions.
 
Shownotes:
 
6Lack - Free 6Lack new album
 
The beautiful Passion Planner buy at www.passionplanner.com
 
The Next book: Money: A Love Story by Kate Northrup
 
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s02e01 - Deep Work, because you can’t dive in a kiddie pool

November 13, 2016
Lianne Kay and Andrew Chin discuss their 30-day challenges, review the book Deep Work by Cal Newport. They also dive into some of their pop culture pleasures and current obsessions.
 
Shownotes:
The book of the month: Deep Work by Cal Newport - you can buy it here
Tove Lo - Ladywood (new album)
Ru Paul podcast
 
Watch Before the Flood by Leonardo Dicaprio for free on YouTube
 
Bonus:The Universe by Amy Shumer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6eqCaiwmr_M
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